LemonAid is what you make when you’re finally ready to stand up, be seen and create the no compromises, no more BS, no more excuses way of living you’ve always wanted. LemonAid is YOU taking full control of YOU, using the recipe that works for YOU.
What’s Your Recipe?
How To Make LemonAid
Our initial recipe was somewhat haphazard to begin with…
- Two big dollops of coming out, at the grand old ages of 39 and 42.
- Two hurt and confused former partners (the fathers of our children).
- Four small children whose worlds were turned upside down.
…it doesn’t sound like a recipe for something delicious, does it?! But at the heart of it all was our deep desire to live a life that felt more like ‘us’ – which meant finding ourselves first, both individually and together.
We created this LemonAid website and the LemonAid community to provide a space for other women to create their own life ‘recipes’, with support from a community of women who accept you however you show up, who accept you for who you are (shadow sides and all), and who are each making their own recipes alongside you.
LemonAid is YOU taking full control of YOU, using the recipe that works for YOU. Here’s what we have to help you create a recipe for your very own flavour of LemonAid:
- A private online space for you to connect with other members, and see and be seen.
- Regular community challenges to encourage you to explore key areas of your recipe.
- In person meet-ups for hugs, laughter and a good dose of ‘me’ time.
- Hefty dollops of us sharing the details of our own private recipe (for inspiration or a good laugh!).
For help creating your own initial recipe, scroll to the bottom of this page 😉
Behind The Name
Well, that’s a nod to…
- The use of the word ‘lemons’ to mean lesbians.
- The fact that us being together has been much needed ‘first aid’ for the lives we were living.
- The saying “when life gives you lemons make lemonade” – because we don’t want to wait around for life to give us lemons…we want to go out, pick our own and squeeze the f*ck out of them to make delicious LemonAid!
- The fact that creating our own recipe has essentially been like filling in the missing parts of us being able to be more ‘us’ than we’ve ever thought possible.
- The perfect kind of LemonAid is a balance of sweet and sour – because the sour makes the sweet taste that little bit sweeter, and vice versa!
Who We Are
The Chief Lemon + The Chief Squeezer
I always knew ‘real life’ wasn’t for me.
Born to a half-German, teenage mother and an unemotional adopted father, we travelled a lot in Europe when I was small. My parents split up the night before we were due to move to Germany. I was 6. My single mum raised me in a rented farmhouse in the UK, with a car that had a door tied on with bale string, whilst putting herself through university.
I travelled as much and as cheaply as I could: 18 months working and travelling in Israel, The Red Sea and Sinai, a summer in the Balearics, a month teaching English in Poland, trips to the Gambia, Germany, Senegal, Paris, Morrocco, Ireland, a driving tour around the West coast of the USA and working trips to Iceland and Austria.
In between travelling, I put myself through university as a mature student, working as a student trainer throughout, teaching a variety of self-help courses to other students. I gained a 1st class degree and a scholarship for a Masters (taught by Germaine Greer) but I still had no idea about a career other than my childhood desire to write.
By this time, although I had settled into a more conventional life, buying a house with my then-partner whilst I was still a student, I still needed my life to be somewhat alternative. I worked and travelled as a PA for a disabled woman who was an activist, disability equality trainer and who went on to become a comedian and star of a high profile BBC drama.
My partner was a gamer, a biker, an ex-punk and an ex-member of AFA (Anti-Fascist Action). We were hardcore Glastonbury goers (8 years on the trot, many of those in the mud!). After almost breaking up, we decided to commit to a move to the country and I bought our Grade II listed cottage at auction, paying the deposit on a credit card! We spent several years renovating it, doing a lot of the work ourselves while I project managed the building work.
I also started therapy at this time and took various Counselling qualifications, including working towards a Diploma. I volunteered as a counsellor in schools and as a mentor for young people and this led me to work with vulnerable, young, homeless people. Real life was getting its claws into me!
I left this job and my relationship, and became an Anti-Social Behaviour Officer complete with company car. Real life had arrived and I was depressed.
At an all-time low, I embarked on another relationship (that I knew, deep down, wasn’t right) and had two children. I was diagnosed with fibromylagia, had to leave my job and consider how the hell I could make a living being self-employed.
Retraining as a Louise Hay teacher I started running workshops whilst also buying and selling furniture on Ebay.
My life was so far removed from how I wanted to be living but I found it hard to face up to the fact that the relationship was the thing that needed to change and any amount of other tinkering wouldn’t ever change that, especially as I thought I was gay…cue LemonAid!Becky
I’ve always lived a fairly unconventional life…
I was born in HK, adopted from birth, and then brought up by a single mother in the UK after my parents divorced when my Dad left my Mum for her best friend (my brother and I used to fly as UMs – unaccompanied minors – from the ages of 4 and 5 for 20+ hours to visit him once a year in HK).
My career started fairly conventionally – a degree in German & Business studies, followed by a ‘dream’ job as a management consultant for Accenture in London, until I deliberately stepped off the path of conventionality when my Mum died in 2003.
In the midst of planning a (bigger than I’d really wanted) wedding with my Mum, after she died I ended up getting married in Sydney, Australia while we were travelling, to the man I’d been with since the age of 17.
On returning, I left management consulting (I quit on my first day back), retrained as a Personal Trainer & Holistic Health Coach and ran my own wellness business for 2+ years, until I realised I didn’t actually enjoy working with clients!
In 2006 I discovered blogging and a whole world of online opportunities I never knew existed opened up.
Cue…becoming location independent – creating and running an online business from 10+ countries around the world between 2007-2011.
Having inadvertently stumbled upon this lifestyle, I blogged about it, literally wrote the (first) book on it and grew the online location independent community to 20k+ strong members while still travelling full time (you can see my international media mentions here!).
When my daughter unexpectedly arrived in 2009, we spent another year on the road with her until we decided we wanted a sibling for her; we had our son in 2013 and settled down to a fairly conventional life…with a 300-year old cottage in the country, a Volvo in the driveway, and home educating them both whilst I continued to run my business, as a business and online technology coach.
It was around this time – with the time to finally stop, breathe and reflect – that it began to dawn on me that where I was, wasn’t actually the life I’d ever dreamed for myself and WTF was I actually doing?
I knew deep down that I was probably either bi or gay and, wrestling with the regret of never doing what I actually wanted versus blowing up my life, my children’s lives and my then-husband’s life, I knew it was really a question of timing:
When would be the ‘best’ time to do something about it…Now while the children were young or wait till they’re older and put my life on hold until they were?
As you can see, I opted for the former and the story from that point onwards is here on our blog and in the LemonAid community for you to see!Lea Jovy