Follow Our Journey On The LemonAid Blog

We started blogging as a cathartic experience while making our own flavour of LemonAid.
Below you’ll find our posts sharing our experience of creating a blended family – a bi-racial, gay one at that!

    Coming Out…To The Children

    We were recently asked by a LemonAider how we came out to our children... Our situation was somewhat different from theirs since our kids were the same age and already knew each other from various activities and social meet-ups together, so our transition into...

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    Showing Up + Being Seen Online…

    Lea has been showing up online for over a decade creating a whole movement around being location independent. That was quite intimidating for me when we first met, given that my online presence was basically a personal Facebook account!!  We’ve been showing up...

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    Building LemonAid: Why It’s Not Free To Join the Community!

    In this video, we talk about building the LemonAid community from scratch, why we charge to join, and why we so fully believe in its role and value. Note: Excuse my (Lea) puffy face and squinty eyes in this; I'd had some life-changing news this weekend and it was...

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    Still The One

    So what are the things we do that we credit with us still being together, still loving each other and still wanting to have sex with each other more now than in the beginning?! As we head towards the 3rd anniversary of radically changing our lives we’re in a pensive...

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    Left Wanting…

    Dear Lea,As you know, prior to my awakening just over two years ago, my needs and wants were pretty much bottom of my, and consequently other people’s, list.Did I know what it was I did want? Not completely but I sure as hell knew I didn’t want much of what I had –...

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    Down To The Bottom (Of It All)

    Dear you, Good question! How exactly have we managed to stay together for 2 years, given the potentially explosive nature of our stuff - how Becky's shit triggers mine and mine triggers hers- and with the kids in the mix?! One of the most useful tools we've discovered...

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    Children of Ours

      Hey you, I think it'd require a book to cover the ups and downs of the journey for the kids so far. As you'd expect, mine were both devastated at the breakdown of our family unit. Even now, almost 2 years after their father and I decided to separate, they have...

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    Big Magic

    Dear you, We’ve had an interesting few weeks. As part of my birthday present, Lea got tickets to see Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love. She was running a Big Magic Event in London based on her book ‘Big Magic - Creative Living Beyond Fear’. I was afraid!...

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    Underneath The Stars On A White Horse

      Dear you, I know lots of people say that winning millions on the lottery is the thing that would most change their lives. But for me, ‘life changing’ seems to have decided to gently tiptoe in the back door rather than announcing itself loudly with a fanfare and...

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    Fireworks

      Dear you, It's not all been a bed of roses. I know it can be easy to focus on the upsides, especially in the beginning when a new relationship is fresh and exciting, but there have been many difficult aspects in making this leap to totally change all our lives....

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    For LemonAiders Only

    An archive of private posts for LemonAid members only in which we previously shared the juiciest stuff about creating our own blend of LemonAid. You’ll still need to be logged in to read these. Note: For our new private, most intimate content, head to the iSpot!

    Bent Becky

    Guilt is only a burden when you bend down and pick it up... apparently. Unfortunately, I keep bending. Our last post saw Lea talking about whether it’s right that the children should always come first and how, as a couple parenting our four children, we don’t think it...

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    Should The Children Always Come First?

    I believe that making our children the centre of our universe is not the kind of parenting approach that benefits them most to prepare them for the world they’ll be living in as adults. Why not? I can think of at least 3 main reasons... 1. Because in the 'real' adult...

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    Night At The Circus

    We wrote these letters after a Christmas night out with fellow LemonAiders, that also turned into a celebration of us being newly engaged. There was a fair bit of Becky’s stuff around and Lea felt she’d had a night at Becky’s personal Circus... Dear Becky, I found...

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    Step By Step (Parenting)

    We went for a walk in the woods yesterday. All six of us. Nothing very unusual there given we are forest school types...But it struck me as we were taking moody wintery shots of the kids climbing trees and Lea was helping them climb higher, that I am a step-parent....

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    I’ll Tell You What I Want, What I Really Really Want…

    Dear Lea, This feels really hard, telling you honestly all the things I really want! Telling you in my last letter all the things that I knew I didn’t want, having already created them for myself felt a damn sight easier than this! I want you to know that regardless...

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