…Live life the way you’ve always wanted to!

LemonAid is a personal account of what happens when two female friends come out at ages 39 and 42, leave their (male) partners and begin a relationship together, with 4 young children between them…

About Becky + Lea

Who We Are

We are Lea and Becky, two forty-something friends who, in 2016, came out and began a relationship together, at the grand ‘old’ ages of 39 and 42.

Between us, we have four children (3 girls and a boy) and are in the process of working towards living together as a blended family and getting married in 2020.

Our flavour of LemonAid tastes like a lifestyle of freedom, funded by our own online ventures, creating communities of like-minded folk and, ultimately, being the kind of role models for our children that we want to be.

Who The Community Is For

Want to Make Your Own LemonAid?

We run the LemonAid community to provide a space for women, like you, who…

  • Feel like you’ve never truly fitted in (and in some ways you’re a little bit proud of that!).
  • Crave more than just superficial chit chat and the usual ‘school gate’ topics of conversation.
  • Have hopes and dreams which may have been denied, hidden or mocked until now.
  • Want support from people who accept you for who you actually are, not who you (or they) feel you should be.
  • Want your whole self to be seen and accepted, even the shadow parts you find most shameful.
  • Feel alone, lonely and have no-one who you can really talk to beyond a certain level.
  • Are ready to hear other perspectives, points of view and lifestyle choices (and maybe even try them on for size!).

Coming Up In the Community

Events + Challenges

Every month in the LemonAid community, something amazingly awesome happens to us all! Here’s what’s happening and upcoming in the community:

July 2019

The Me First challenge – join us for this month-long challenge to focus on putting yourself first in EVERY way.

Join us as we participate in the Me First challenge starting on July  1st.. 

Happy Members

What LemonAiders Say…

I joined LemonAid while on the cusp of making some important decisions around my life, home and family. That said, I'm still mid-cusp, because it has opened my mind to other possibilities I hadn't previously considered. So there is always more to explore...

Our meetings bring a deeper layer to being a LemonAider: talking (about anything and everything), listening, laughing, occasional eye-wiping, but always safe, supportive and well-led.

It is a pleasure to be part of this community of women: to feel supported, accepted and encouraged through decisions and changes; to feel able to speak openly and honestly without fear of judgement; to be given the opportunity to champion others in their endeavours; to be positively challenged to approach life from a different angle; and to witness the evolution of relationships. Thank you, beautiful LemonAiders 🍋

Jo F, UK

Reading your posts makes me feel braver – not about anything in particular but your honesty and way of writing helps me feel more confident that I can muddle through life, motherhood and my relationship too and am not stuffing it all up too badly!

Thank you for sharing ? You both write beautifully and honestly ? Keep up the amazing work! 

Dr. Sue M, UK

I wanted to write to thank you for your blog. I value your beautifully written words, filled with awareness, wit, honesty and intimacy very highly. Your blog is such a gift because it is always there whenever I feel alone in my gay life (I live in middle class rural Leicestershire so this is not difficult!) and I feel a little surge of joy when I see a new one has been published. Your words always bring me to tears of being deeply moved, of recognition, connection, of being known and knowing, of joy and sadness and celebration. Please never stop!

Lucy P, UK

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How To Create Your Own LemonAid Recipe…

Coming Out…To The Children

We were recently asked by a LemonAider how we came out to our children... Our situation was somewhat different from theirs since our kids were the same age and already knew each other from various activities and social meet-ups together, so our transition into...

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The Experiment Continues…

Our living together, blended family experiment continues apace (see here for the warts and all version of how it’s going between the two of us!). While the kids all seem to be adjusting pretty well to what amounts to a pretty big change in their lives, it’s not been...

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Showing Up + Being Seen Online…

Lea has been showing up online for over a decade creating a whole movement around being location independent. That was quite intimidating for me when we first met, given that my online presence was basically a personal Facebook account!!  We’ve been showing up...

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Building LemonAid: Why It’s Not Free To Join the Community!

In this video, we talk about building the LemonAid community from scratch, why we charge to join, and why we so fully believe in its role and value. Note: Excuse my (Lea) puffy face and squinty eyes in this; I'd had some life-changing news this weekend and it was...

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