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…THE place to come for anyone dead set against, curious about, crying out for, shit scared of, on the cusp of or up to their eyeballs in an ‘awakening’…
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What Fellow LemonAiders Say…
Reading your posts makes me feel braver – not about anything in particular but your honesty and way of writing helps me feel more confident that I can muddle through life, motherhood and my relationship too and am not stuffing it all up too badly!
Thank you for sharing You both write beautifully and honestly Keep up the amazing work!Dr. S. McCowan
I wanted to write to thank you for your blog. I value your beautifully written words, filled with awareness, wit, honesty and intimacy very highly. Your blog is such a gift because it is always there whenever I feel alone in my gay life (I live in middle class rural Leicestershire so this is not difficult!) and I feel a little surge of joy when I see a new one has been published. Your words always bring me to tears of being deeply moved, of recognition, connection, of being known and knowing, of joy and sadness and celebration. Please never stop!L Power
Latest On The Blog…
We went for a walk in the woods yesterday. All six of us. Nothing very unusual there given we are forest school types...But it struck me as we were taking moody wintery shots of the kids climbing trees and Lea was helping them climb higher, that I am a step-parent....read more
2019 is upon us fellow LemonAiders and Lea and I are child-free and busy busy busy! So there have been a few changes going on courtesy of her techness and our LemonAid community can now convene on Slack. I’m very new to such an alien thing, but even I can just about...read more
Dear LemonAiders, Well, the end of 2018 is upon us. And what a year it’s been here at LemonAid HQ! We’ve changed our format, opened a new shop, had a relaunch, welcomed new members and now we’re enGAYged! Holy moly, 50% of LemonAid really didn’t see that coming! In...read more
1. So why did Becky's Awakening take so long?? 2. And why did she hide so much, even in the beginning? 3. So when did Becky's Awakening really begin and what happened? 4. What was Becky's life like before her Awakening? 5. Clearing out Becky's life,...read more
Dear Lea, This feels really hard, telling you honestly all the things I really want! Telling you in my last letter all the things that I knew I didn’t want, having already created them for myself felt a damn sight easier than this! I want you to know that regardless...read more
1. What prompted Lea's Awakening... 2. What Lea's Awakening looked like in reality... 3. Becky misses out an entire key part of Lea's Awakening! 4. Why we each talk so much about our respective emotional 'stuff'... 5. Just as Lea thinks Becky's...read more
Dear Lea,As you know, prior to my awakening just over two years ago, my needs and wants were pretty much bottom of my, and consequently other people’s, list.Did I know what it was I did want? Not completely but I sure as hell knew I didn’t want much of what I had –...read more
Welcome to the new look LemonAid! So why have we re-launched this joint project of ours? To answer, that we need to go right back to the beginning... When we first got together, we knew that what we were doing would probably be seen as the typical, clichéd midlife...read more
Hey you, Yes, I know - inappropriate much?! And yet it feels like it's been a common occurrence since we came out and have been together...an avalanche of inappropriate questions and comments which reveal more about the person saying them than the answers they'd get...read more
Dear you, Good question! How exactly have we managed to stay together for 2 years, given the potentially explosive nature of our stuff - how Becky's shit triggers mine and mine triggers hers- and with the kids in the mix?! One of the most useful tools we've discovered...read more
Dear You, Sorry for the delay in writing back. The article that Lea posted on feminism sparked some unexpected controversy with two of our friends so we’ve been a bit ‘self absorbed’ working out what was really going on beneath the surface and whose shit was whose!!...read more
Hey you, I think it'd require a book to cover the ups and downs of the journey for the kids so far. As you'd expect, mine were both devastated at the breakdown of our family unit. Even now, almost 2 years after their father and I decided to separate, they have their...read more
Dear you, I've mentioned our 'issue' with intimacy a few times, haven't I? Well, it's not been me!!! Surprisingly, I'm the one who's craved intimacy and for a while, I thought I was getting it. Until it became quite clear it wasn't quite what I thought it was!...read more
Dear you, We’ve had an interesting few weeks. As part of my birthday present, Lea got tickets to see Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love. She was running a Big Magic Event in London based on her book ‘Big Magic - Creative Living Beyond Fear’. I was afraid!...read more
Dear you, Oh dear Lord. I still feel a bit coy about sharing this with you. Obviously, the question burning on everyone’s lips, including yours it would seem, when you announce you’ve run off to become a lesbian is ‘What’s the sex like?’! Well, put simply, the answer...read more
Dear you, I know lots of people say that winning millions on the lottery is the thing that would most change their lives. But for me, ‘life changing’ seems to have decided to gently tiptoe in the back door rather than announcing itself loudly with a fanfare and a...read more
Dear you, You’re not the first to ask me the "Have you always been gay?" question. Often accompanied by the "Why wait so long to come out?", "Why have children with a man?", "Surely you’re bi and not gay?" and even the really cheeky "Why have you shagged so many men...read more
Dear you, It's not all been a bed of roses. I know it can be easy to focus on the upsides, especially in the beginning when a new relationship is fresh and exciting, but there have been many difficult aspects in making this leap to totally change all our lives....read more
Dear You, So why does someone straight suddenly decide age 42, to leave the father of their two kids, and begin a romantic relationship with a close same sex friend? One of the biggest reasons was that I really didn’t want to get to the end of my life and not have...read more
Dear you, OK OK!!! So I drop a bombshell like that and then don’t give you enough juicy details!! Well, I think I began to feel we could be good friends when she out-pooed me at Forest School!! As the queen of poo gags and double entendres I am always impressed if...read more