Are You Scared Of Your Happily Ever After?

We are Becky and Lea, mothers of 4 children between us, who came out, started a relationship and are enjoying creating our Happily Ever After, together. LemonAid is a key part of this – and we’re building a community of women who are finding the courage to create their Happily Ever Afters too.
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What's Coming Up + How You Can Join In...

Every month in the LemonAid community, something amazingly awesome happens to us all! Here’s what’s happening and upcoming at LemonAid HQ and in the community:

March 2019

The Money Matters challenge – A 30-day challenge for LemonAiders to help change our money mindsets! Become a LemonAider to participate as a complimentary part of your membership, or buy the Money Matters email course with extra resources plus 1 free month’s trial membership.

April 2019

Squeeze The Day – Help us create a wave of change on April 30th by pledging to make your own change on the day. Find out what we’re pledging to do & commit to make your own change too!

May 2019

The emBODYment challenge – join us for another 30-day challenge in the LemonAid community, to (re)connect with your body, mind and spirit. Become a LemonAider to participate in the challenge as a complimentary part of your membership.

What LemonAiders Say…

I joined LemonAid while on the cusp of making some important decisions around my life, home and family. That said, I'm still mid-cusp, because it has opened my mind to other possibilities I hadn't previously considered. So there is always more to explore...

Our meetings bring a deeper layer to being a LemonAider: talking (about anything and everything), listening, laughing, occasional eye-wiping, but always safe, supportive and well-led.

It is a pleasure to be part of this community of women: to feel supported, accepted and encouraged through decisions and changes; to feel able to speak openly and honestly without fear of judgement; to be given the opportunity to champion others in their endeavours; to be positively challenged to approach life from a different angle; and to witness the evolution of relationships. Thank you, beautiful LemonAiders 🍋

Jo F, UK

Reading your posts makes me feel braver – not about anything in particular but your honesty and way of writing helps me feel more confident that I can muddle through life, motherhood and my relationship too and am not stuffing it all up too badly!

Thank you for sharing ? You both write beautifully and honestly ? Keep up the amazing work! 

Dr. S McCowan, UK

I wanted to write to thank you for your blog. I value your beautifully written words, filled with awareness, wit, honesty and intimacy very highly. Your blog is such a gift because it is always there whenever I feel alone in my gay life (I live in middle class rural Leicestershire so this is not difficult!) and I feel a little surge of joy when I see a new one has been published. Your words always bring me to tears of being deeply moved, of recognition, connection, of being known and knowing, of joy and sadness and celebration. Please never stop!

L Power, UK

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Latest On The Blog…

Bent Becky

Guilt is only a burden when you bend down and pick it up... apparently. Unfortunately, I keep bending. Our last post saw Lea talking about whether it’s right that the children should always come first and how, as a couple parenting our four children, we don’t think it...

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Should The Children Always Come First?

I believe that making our children the centre of our universe is not the kind of parenting approach that benefits them most to prepare them for the world they’ll be living in as adults. Why not? I can think of at least 3 main reasons... 1. Because in the 'real' adult...

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Still The One

So what are the things we do that we credit with us still being together, still loving each other and still wanting to have sex with each other more now than in the beginning?! As we head towards the 3rd anniversary of radically changing our lives we’re in a pensive...

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Night At The Circus

We wrote these letters after a Christmas night out with fellow LemonAiders, that also turned into a celebration of us being newly engaged. There was a fair bit of Becky’s stuff around and Lea felt she’d had a night at Becky’s personal Circus... Dear Becky, I found...

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Step By Step (Parenting)

We went for a walk in the woods yesterday. All six of us. Nothing very unusual there given we are forest school types...But it struck me as we were taking moody wintery shots of the kids climbing trees and Lea was helping them climb higher, that I am a step-parent....

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You’re Beautiful…It’s True.

2019 is upon us fellow LemonAiders and Lea and I are child-free and busy busy busy! So there have been a few changes going on courtesy of her techness and our LemonAid community can now convene on Slack. I’m very new to such an alien thing, but even I can just about...

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Goodbye 2018!

Dear LemonAiders, Well, the end of 2018 is upon us. And what a year it’s been here at LemonAid HQ! We’ve changed our format, opened a new shop, had a relaunch, welcomed new members and now we’re enGAYged! Holy moly, 50% of LemonAid really didn’t see that coming! In...

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I’ll Tell You What I Want, What I Really Really Want…

Dear Lea, This feels really hard, telling you honestly all the things I really want! Telling you in my last letter all the things that I knew I didn’t want, having already created them for myself felt a damn sight easier than this! I want you to know that regardless...

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Left Wanting…

Dear Lea,As you know, prior to my awakening just over two years ago, my needs and wants were pretty much bottom of my, and consequently other people’s, list.Did I know what it was I did want? Not completely but I sure as hell knew I didn’t want much of what I had –...

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Adding More Fizz…

Welcome to the new look LemonAid! So why have we re-launched this joint project of ours? To answer, that we need to go right back to the beginning... When we first got together, we knew that what we were doing would probably be seen as the typical, clichéd midlife...

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I’ll Be Your Mirror

Hey you, Yes, I know - inappropriate much?! And yet it feels like it's been a common occurrence since we came out and have been together...an avalanche of inappropriate questions and comments which reveal more about the person saying them than the answers they'd get...

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Down To The Bottom (Of It All)

Dear you, Good question! How exactly have we managed to stay together for 2 years, given the potentially explosive nature of our stuff - how Becky's shit triggers mine and mine triggers hers- and with the kids in the mix?! One of the most useful tools we've discovered...

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Kill ‘Em With Kindness

Dear You, Sorry for the delay in writing back. The article that Lea posted on feminism sparked some unexpected controversy with two of our friends so we’ve been a bit ‘self absorbed’ working out what was really going on beneath the surface and whose shit was whose!!...

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Children of Ours

  Hey you, I think it'd require a book to cover the ups and downs of the journey for the kids so far. As you'd expect, mine were both devastated at the breakdown of our family unit. Even now, almost 2 years after their father and I decided to separate, they have...

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Intimacy

  Dear you, I've mentioned our 'issue' with intimacy a few times, haven't I? Well, it's not been me!!! Surprisingly, I'm the one who's craved intimacy and for a while, I thought I was getting it. Until it became quite clear it wasn't quite what I thought it was!...

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Big Magic

Dear you, We’ve had an interesting few weeks. As part of my birthday present, Lea got tickets to see Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love. She was running a Big Magic Event in London based on her book ‘Big Magic - Creative Living Beyond Fear’. I was afraid!...

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Let’s Talk About Sex

Dear you, Oh dear Lord. I still feel a bit coy about sharing this with you. Obviously, the question burning on everyone’s lips, including yours it would seem, when you announce you’ve run off to become a lesbian is ‘What’s the sex like?’! Well, put simply, the answer...

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Underneath The Stars On A White Horse

  Dear you, I know lots of people say that winning millions on the lottery is the thing that would most change their lives. But for me, ‘life changing’ seems to have decided to gently tiptoe in the back door rather than announcing itself loudly with a fanfare and...

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